When I see these pictures and videos, the first thing I think to myself is wow, that's gorgeous.
The second thing I think is that Top will never want to play with someone like me.
When I play (get played with, really), yeah, I can be all quiet and demure if I have to be; and I can still get induced to fly that way, too. But for me, that's just scratching the surface of the real depth of the experience. The most intense, raw, and in the end, memorable scenes for me have always been the ones where I fight the most.
I struggle; I scream; I scratch, bite, holler, swear, cry, and do anything and everything to fight what's happening. I sink into subspace, but I do not 'go gentle into that good night,' I contend with every step down into that dark descent. I give up all my grace and composure to turn into a sweaty, screeching, writhing animal--if the scene is with someone I trust, that is.
See, the thing is, the more I trust the Top I'm playing with, the more free I'll feel to give into the fight, and give it all I've got. That's what makes the scene good for me. If I don't know the Top that well, if we've not become that close yet, I might feel too inhibited and embarrassed to really let go. So you'll see me quiet and still, taking the play action with nothing but a soft mix of grimaces and smiles flitting across face, punctuated now and then with a quiet gasp or breathy moan.
But when I trust the Top I'm with? Oh ho, now it's a completely different story. Every little thing they do is going to get a reaction out of me, and it's not always going to be pretty. It's certainly not going to be quiet, and it's not going to be composed.
But it will be raw, honest, and unreserved.
To me, that's what a great scene is about: having the freedom to show this person my raw underbelly, the part of me I have to keep concealed and controlled at every other time. But I can't show it to everyone, because it's fragile, precious, and at the same time, dangerous. If I don't trust the right Top, I can get hurt. I am trusting that person not to hurt me when I'm at my most vulnerable, and I don't mean the hurt we've already negotiated and agreed upon; I'm talking about real hurt, the kind that might shatter me to pieces, down to my soul. I'm trusting that person to keep control, over me, over themselves, and over the scene, when I cannot.
The Tops that have played with me tell me I'm fun; they like it when I give them instant feedback to whatever they're doing. And the Sadists I play with seem to enjoy all my profuse cries and moans.
But then, I'm not going to play with a Sadist who I think won't.
And I guess that's what it comes down to. If you want to play with women who can keep their shit together and remain calm at all times, and fly off into subspace with barely a peep, then by all means, keep putting pictures like that on your profile. But if you want a woman who keeps it a little more raw, who might not act as docile going down but can still be a shitload of fun to play with, you might want to make that known, too.