Consensual Non-Consent: This Is Where The Tea Analogy Breaks Down
Inspired by this video:
Top and bottom negotiating CNC scene over PMs:
bottom: All this talk about tea has made me want a consensual non-consent tea scene. I want you to hold me down and pour tea down my throat. Don't be gentle about it either; I want to be fucking choking on that shit. Top: That sounds hot. I've always wanted to do a tea-choking scene; sounds like waterboarding! Yeah! bottom: Hey now, don't make it like waterboarding. I don't want any tea up my nose. Top: Ah; okay. I'll have to hold you down vertically somehow, then. I'll use a dental gag— bottom: No, dental gags are a big trigger. I gotta call RED on that. Top: Uh, okay...no problem! I'll just, um...hold your jaws open. Fuck yeah, this'll be hot! Pour that scalding hot tea down your throat— bottom: No fucking way! I don't want scalding hot tea down my throat, are you nuts? I'll burn. Make it warm. Top: Alright; no scalding hot tea. I'll blow on it first. But I'll make you finish that whole fucking cup...maybe even the whole set of cups— bottom: You got a tea set? Top: Of course; I am well prepared. Like I said, I've always wanted to do a tea-choking scene. bottom: What color is the set? Top:...Blue? bottom: Ok; blue is okay. Pink would not have been okay. Pink squicks me out. Top: Well, now that I think about it, the saucers might have pink flowers on them. But that's okay, I know someone else who has a plain blue tea set, I can borrow his— bottom: HOLD ON THERE, BUCKO. We are not inviting someone else's tea set into our scene. Top: I can blindfold you? bottom: That might work. Maybe. Top: Um...look, why don't we sit down somewhere and really go over this scene from beginning to end. You want to get together in person somewhere? Maybe have a cup of tea with me? bottom: We're not done negotiating, and you already want to start a scene with me! Top: No no, not a SCENE. Just two people sitting in a restaurant, having a cup of tea. bottom: Oh. Okay then. Sounds good.
Moral of the story: Consensual Non-Consent is not like asking someone if they'd like a fucking cup of tea.