"List your kinks."
Oh, we are going to get into uber-share time, aren't we? *Blushing*
So let's get the first biggie out of the way. I love anal. Love it.
DO YOU HEAR THAT? I AM AN ANAL SLUT! AND PROUD OF IT!
I guess I'm still a little sensitive about this because, even among women who call themselves "open" to all things kink and say that women should be honest and proud of what they want, eventually a lot of them end up making derogatory comments about anal sex. About how women are pushed into it, about how it's not safe, about how men only want to try it because it's all over the place now, thanks to porn....blah blah blah. I'm friends with a couple sex workers, and even one of them made some comments to me one day about how anal sex is so uncomfortable, and how she'll only do it for extra cash, and why do men even think women like that? She was shocked, shocked, when I quietly mentioned I like it. And she is a sex worker. But I love anal.
The story I just finished writing from my next series, Masters of the Hotel Bentmoore, contains nothing but anal. I had to stop at 45 pages, because I was getting into novella territory and let's be honest, you can't write a novella about nothing but two people having anal sex. But I could have gone on for another hundred pages with nothing but the Dom sticking things up this nice lady's ass.
Next! I love being spanked. Yeah, this one is not nearly as eyebrow-raising, I know. LOTS of women enjoy being spanked. I also love being paddled, belted, cropped...you get the idea. Okay, so there are times, especially when I'm being punished, that I don't enjoy it as it's happening...but I always enjoy it after. My butt has to stay red until the next day for me to think the session was anything even slightly serious.
Onward! I love taking orders. I don't know if this can be even considered a kink, but I guess so, since the prevailing idea these days is that women shouldn't be taking orders, even in the bedroom (the women over at Kinky Ever After wrote a post about this very issue, today, go check it out). I love to be told what to do, and know if I don't, I'll be punished. Some of the hottest words my husband can tell me are "honey, take me in your mouth, now," or "lean over, ass in the air, and no, we are not going to talk about this." Two of the best, simplest words in the english language: "Take it."
I guess everything else would be a variation on these things. I'm not into food, or pony play, or medical play...just some good, ole' fashioned, hardcore BDSM. Or maybe others wouldn't even call this stuff hardcore. I don't know. But it's what's at my core. And I love it. :)